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10 lessons from Sex And The City that still make sense

Carrie’s wisdom, Miranda’s formidability, Charlotte’s quirkiness, Samantha’s tenacity, and more

Nairita Mukherjee Noir_Memoir 18 January 2018, 11:30 PM
A still from Sex In The City

A still from Sex In The City

Some shows last forever. If not on-screen, at least in our hearts. It has been 20 years since the rom-com Sex and the City came into our lives and entertained us for 8 long years with lessons in sex and relationships. And even today, Carrie’s wisdom, Miranda’s formidability, Charlotte’s quirkiness and Samantha’s tenacity are as amusing and relevant as it was back then (if not more!). As AXN India brings back the all-time favourite show on television, here’s a recap of ten life lessons we learnt from Sex and the City that will always remain useful:

#1 Be Bold

Samantha waited hours at a restaurant for a hot waiter to finish his shift, so she could go home with him. She even PAID the one other woman still waiting to leave. Which is a little extreme, but that waiter was Jerrod, and it worked. So, if you want something, go for it. And if someone is turned off by you going after what you want, what does that say about them? Nothing good.

#2 Looks aren't everything

Harry wasn't who Charlotte thought she'd end up with, but he turned out to be her happily ever after. The message? Don't write someone off just because they're "not your type" physically. A pretty face will only take you so far, and a wonderful human being can end up being way sexier than any wannabe-model.

#3 What other people think isn't that important

Samantha was a total boss. She lived her life according to her terms and didn't let anyone dictate to her. In her own immortal words, "I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever, and blow whomever I want, as long as I can breathe and kneel." If you're happy, forget the haters and live your life the way you want to live it.

#4 Everything happens in its own time

You can't hurry love, you'll just have to wait i.e. ignore all the pressure out there to find someone. Look at what happened to Charlotte. She put so much pressure on herself to find "The One" and live her perfect magazine life that she married Trey MacDougal, Man Baby of all Man Babies, and she ended up divorced.

#5 It’s okay to put yourself first

They say true love is loving someone more than you love yourself. But if you're not happy, what's the point of being in a relationship? No matter how gorgeous and sweet Jerrod was, no matter how much he and Samantha loved each other, or how much we all shipped them as a couple, it wasn't right for Samantha and she needed to pursue her own happiness.

#6 You can't pressure someone into loving you

Ending something because the other person will never be able to emotionally commit? Good. Trying to force someone emotionally unavailable to tell you you're the one? Bad. You can't change someone, so if they're not right for you, leave. Hey, you never know. Maybe they'll follow you to Paris six years later and finally tell you you're the one.

#7 Sometimes, they're just not that into you

Clichés are there for a reason, and pretty much no one who's ever moaned, "why aren't they texting me?!" has ever ended up with the person they're moaning about (and if they have, they're the exception). People put in the amount of effort they want to put in. So, if it feels like someone isn't giving you 100%, chances are it's because they just don't want to.

#8 Communication is key

If something was bothering Samantha, she wasn't afraid to say it. No matter how intimate. How can anyone know what's going on if you don't tell them? No one's a mind reader, and sometimes you have to explain exactly what you're experiencing to help your other half understand. That's true both in the bedroom and out of it.

#9 You need to be able to forgive

Miranda broke it off with Steve, turned down his marriage proposal, and then realised she made a mistake. Steve cheated on Miranda while they were going through a rough patch in their marriage, and she managed to forgive him (on the Brooklyn Bridge no less). People make mistakes, and loving someone means loving and accepting all of them – the flaws and imperfections too.

#10 Relationships may come and go, but true friendship is forever

No matter what happened, Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha were there for each other through thick and thin. There may be loads of great guys in your life, but sometimes your soulmates are the besties standing right by your side. Because as Carrie once said, “They say nothing lasts forever…dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.”

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