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Are you guilty of phubbing your partner?

You're checking your phone way too many times in the middle of a conversation with bae

Jayeeta Mazumder 2 July 2017, 7:52 PM
Maybe you're addicted to your phone. You are, aren't you?

Maybe you're addicted to your phone. You are, aren't you? Image: Facebook

Unless you’re a social media introvert, chances are you touch your phone 2,617 times a day. Yep. And no, we aren’t saying that, research is. Kinda makes you feel like Kim Kardashian, no? But wait. That’s not all. This number makes you just an average user. The top 10 per cent of extreme cell phone users take that number up to 5,400 times every day. Take your time to digest that.

Which brings us to the point that you are all guilty of phubbing. What’s that? Well, it’s a portmanteau of the words ‘phone’ and ‘snubbing’, something you're subjecting your partner to during a conversation. If you’re compulsively checking your notifications or scrolling through your social media feeds, you’re guilty. If you’re doing it more in the company of your bae (when you guys should ideally be cooing and looking into each other’s eyes), you need an intervention.

“You can be so seduced by the neurochemical hit of dopamine it provides, of constant connection at a safe distance … who else wants to reach me, the number of likes I’ve got, another funny story to read, the excitement of something new … that it can easily become what you do with your spare time. So it’s not much of a jump from that to also continuing to do so when you are with your partner, instead of using this time as an opportunity to connect with them,” relationship expert Julie Hart, of The Hart Centre, told New York Post.

You are addicted to your phone and phubbing your partner if you are doing any or all of these:

A sound for a reply

All you do is say a ‘hmm’ to whatever your partner is saying. You get caught when he/she asks you a question. Hmm or a grunt, while staring at your phone, is the worst dismissal of your partner.

Can’t Netflix and chill

Because you’re too busy replying to your inane Whatsapp conversations. Your TV is on but your couch is divided. That Sense 8 show will never make sense when bae wants to discuss it.

Eyes on the phone

You can’t keep your eyes off the phone and you’re willing it to light up with countless notifications, not realising that you’ve taken your partner for granted.

Available all day everyday

So you just took a completely non-important call when you were having the most amazing quality time with bae. You just phubbed him/her.

Space cadet for life

You often have that blank look because you have spaced out to browse your Facebook feed. In the middle of an argument with your partner or an important discussion. Bad call. 

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